WHOSE WHO

Question:
From very long time this question is in my mind . Once I had an argument with one of friends about who does the child belong -- to mother or the father (I know that it is both and it is foolish to think he/she belongs to one)but if a situation comes that it is to be decided then.When if we observe usually the family name of male continues to the child so the argument is even though is the female womb that gives birth it is the seed from the male .It is like a plant from mango seed belongs to mango family not to the soil even though it is grown on soil ...........I am not able to agree with this concept , I don't know the reason (I know certainly that it is not me being a female i cannot accept that.) But I want to know the explanation of this ...

When I think about this more I got another thought all rivers originate and emerge into sea even though they are same water they are given different name and their banks are respected a lot they why not the female is given the name even though we say mathrudevo bhava first ............. is it to satisfy male ego ...or some thing any reason attached to it which I am not able to understand.

Reply (By ST):

Dear this is a very interesting question.

Any manifestation if you observe in nature is the alignment of 2 opposites.They are both balancing energies - yin yang, shiv shakti, creation happens with the alignment of opposites..... this is the law of nature.

Issue that we have made of child is only a social one not natural one.

At all the times societies have made an attempt to align with nature to create and experience peace harmony and prosperity.Most of the times we have failed to interpret the laws and mechanisms of nature due to our own limited identities that we acquire from our immediate environment and attempt to interpret nature with those limitations.

Child belongs to nature. you and I both belong to nature. everyone belongs to nature.... so don't try to take possessions of things that belong to nature

Let us not engross in our thoughts feelings and values emerging from our limited identities and endeavor to discover TRUTHS of life.

Truth reveals itself naturally and automatically once we step beyond our identities.

Take a daily step to emerge beyond your own limitations by Closing your eyes 15 minutes twice a day........ Truth will emerge......

Realizations will happen....... Awareness will dawn..........

I added:

I agree to whatever you've said - just wanted to add that:

I cant relate anything from a third party's perspective. I need to relate to everything from where I'm standing. Even the chair where I'm sitting right now, I can relate from where I'm sitting. Though my chair is the same as the other person's chair, but I relate to that differently than mine ( Wah - what an example !!!). So much confined in my world.

So even the child is my/our child, and for others children- I'm no one.



NB: This is a query replied by a SSY teacher (ST) for a question raised by a student from USA. I'd the privilege the get the permission to share this thought.

Touchy moment

Just received a nice photo - wanted to share.



Relationship Work Best When They Are Balanced
Hope Never Dies.....

3-4 times

My wife and I were talking and came the subject of sex. Some people boast of having making it 3-4 times in a day and sharing about the love,romance and spark in their life.
Isn't it only that "they made sex 3-4 times" and nothing else.
It's not they love each other, it's not that they're romantic, it's not that they're alive - it's only that "it" happened 3-4 times.

Now you may ask does it mean they don't have love,romance.... in their life. I don't know the answer. They may have, they may not have. What's your take on this.

Being a citizen

It is early morning on 30th April,2009 - and my wife is asking me to get up early at 7am though it's a holiday as it's a V-day.
And we're ready to get out of house @7:30, keeping our 6year old son sleeping.
We both go to the polling center and see a big queue. And my wife starts grumbling that we should have come before 7 only to make sure that it does not take long for us to cast our votes.
And to our surprise our queue is the longest one.
Now we're standing there for half an hour and hardly there is any movement. At around 8:15 one fellow comes out shouting that it'll take the whole day to move the line.Seriously it was looking that the movement is too slow. My wife is also getting tempted - whether we can get back early so that she can catch our maid. She suggests if this is the same she'll go back now and come back later, while I can be there and cast the vote. Also the concern is if we she comes too late, she may find that someone has already exercised her right.
Any how I tell my wife we'll be done by 8:30 - don't worry about that. Suddenly there is a movement in the queue and things start moving very fast. Someone informs that there was a lady - and her concern took more than 30min to get resolved -now everything should be ok.
Next 5 mins we're in the room - we show our voting slips along with the identity card.

AND FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE I PRESS THE VOTING BUTTON. At last, I also say who should be elected.
So this time my father can't say that we're not putting our right into action.

ARGUMENT

I had gone in the course of argument with "nasty" people after a long long time. I normally avoid collision with people where I know that I can be knocked out any moment (including my wife and 6 year old son). I leave it as it is and I'm sure that I'm not buying the story - if they believe in their own story, let them.
Few days back I got not only one, but two such mauka (chance) to put myself in uncomfortable zone.
One was my yoga teacher - I think one of the best teachers I met in my life as far as commitment and dedication is concerned. I was doing classes with her for almost one year, and it was highly enjoyable session that I used to look forward - three days in a week - Monday,Wednesday and Friday mornings from seven to eight. And so many days (actually nights) it happened that I went to sleep at 2o'clock and even then I joined the classes next day. (And I had a big complaint against those who missed the class as they had to travel for two yours in traffic the last night !!! -- huh, what a bogus crap it can be).

The second one was with a person whom I highly admire for the contribution he makes for our society - but there is a "but". According to him whatever is "right", that is "right" - no one can argue on that.
Anyway, I really enjoyed both the sessions :)).

I was talking to my wife and son that when I was kid, I fought with one friend and blood was coming out of his mouth. I was around 10-12 years at that time. And after that I don't remember any such incident.
Good that I can enjoy arguments even now !!! ((LET ME ENJOY))

I AM LOVE

I was expecting this will happen one day - I'll do meditation and the "reality" will show up - and in that moment, I'll get in touch with LOVE.
Last couple of years I was in that expectation - what else do I do so that I can get in touch with self and love. And in the process I was actually cutting all communication with all and getting secluded in life.

Last weekend I was in communication course and my expectation was that I will see how to listen and be one with others. The first surprise was that it was about love and affinity and nothing else and the promise was that love is a function of communication.
When I came out of house on Monday morning and driving through the highway, I got in touch with that part of mine which declared that all relationship that I've with all is love and nothing else. And dust was sitting on top of that, so I did not experience that till date.
With this experience, I just had to say " I LOVE YOU" to create my world. And now the new reality is "I AM LOVE" and anything else is dust particle stopping that sunshine to come out.

Impact of Recession

The interesting topic now-a-days in the office premises and outside is about the economic downturn and economic recession in giant economics.
It all started with the news that Lehman brothers declared bankruptcy . My job is neither in financial industry nor I'm in the USA - so why should I get worried about this ?
(A good joke on Lehman brothers:
US President George Bush: I am saddened to hear about the demise of Lehman Brothers. My thoughts go out to their mother as losing one son is hard but losing two is no doubt a tragedy.)

Then it started one by one - and in few days my organization also came out with the news that the impact on our business is huge and with a decreasing dollar value how it's killing us.

Initially I did not get the maths in this. When I got that when we've quoted any product for Rs. X (thinking $1=Rs.40 in August time frame) and getting actually 80% of $ value (By this time $1=Rs50), it really hit me hard. It's very difficult that we can sustain in this kind of scenario.

By next 2-3 weeks people started talking about this and the trend I saw is that everyone started thinking about the worst possible scenario and getting scared in their life - as if this has already happened and true for them.

(I also found that this is the way we live our life - let there be any situation and we're scared about the worst possibility and that really eats us up).

This is the time when I found where I'm actually living my life powerfully. There is no imagination, no positive thinking, there is no day dreaming that everything is going great. I could see myself grounded on what it is in reality. If my job is going on, if my family is happy, if my kid is happy and joyous - this is what I've right now. I don't know what may happen in future - whatever will happen will happen. Nothing can stop it. Then why to worry about that.

There is this grounding that is really making me happy and living a tension free life.