WHOSE WHO

Question:
From very long time this question is in my mind . Once I had an argument with one of friends about who does the child belong -- to mother or the father (I know that it is both and it is foolish to think he/she belongs to one)but if a situation comes that it is to be decided then.When if we observe usually the family name of male continues to the child so the argument is even though is the female womb that gives birth it is the seed from the male .It is like a plant from mango seed belongs to mango family not to the soil even though it is grown on soil ...........I am not able to agree with this concept , I don't know the reason (I know certainly that it is not me being a female i cannot accept that.) But I want to know the explanation of this ...

When I think about this more I got another thought all rivers originate and emerge into sea even though they are same water they are given different name and their banks are respected a lot they why not the female is given the name even though we say mathrudevo bhava first ............. is it to satisfy male ego ...or some thing any reason attached to it which I am not able to understand.

Reply (By ST):

Dear this is a very interesting question.

Any manifestation if you observe in nature is the alignment of 2 opposites.They are both balancing energies - yin yang, shiv shakti, creation happens with the alignment of opposites..... this is the law of nature.

Issue that we have made of child is only a social one not natural one.

At all the times societies have made an attempt to align with nature to create and experience peace harmony and prosperity.Most of the times we have failed to interpret the laws and mechanisms of nature due to our own limited identities that we acquire from our immediate environment and attempt to interpret nature with those limitations.

Child belongs to nature. you and I both belong to nature. everyone belongs to nature.... so don't try to take possessions of things that belong to nature

Let us not engross in our thoughts feelings and values emerging from our limited identities and endeavor to discover TRUTHS of life.

Truth reveals itself naturally and automatically once we step beyond our identities.

Take a daily step to emerge beyond your own limitations by Closing your eyes 15 minutes twice a day........ Truth will emerge......

Realizations will happen....... Awareness will dawn..........

I added:

I agree to whatever you've said - just wanted to add that:

I cant relate anything from a third party's perspective. I need to relate to everything from where I'm standing. Even the chair where I'm sitting right now, I can relate from where I'm sitting. Though my chair is the same as the other person's chair, but I relate to that differently than mine ( Wah - what an example !!!). So much confined in my world.

So even the child is my/our child, and for others children- I'm no one.



NB: This is a query replied by a SSY teacher (ST) for a question raised by a student from USA. I'd the privilege the get the permission to share this thought.