The Base Work for Success

After you read this, may be you can ask me whether I’m the best authority to talk about the subject that I’ve chosen – and the answer is may be “NO” and maybe “MAY BE”.
Success is always wanted by human beings; let it be at any level. Definitely I’m not including people who are in the league with our Guruji. And if I see my life, I can see that at every different point of time, success meant something different to me.
I can see one very interesting thing about what I “think” success is – it’s always getting something for me. No exception. And this has become a “rule” of success in my life. Can you also see the same pattern!
In any case, I’m experimenting with few basic principles of success that I’ve come to know. I don’t think it’s easy to stick to those very easily. I think even for Pele it was a hard work first to make sure that the foot ball sticks to his feet. He also practiced and I’m also doing that now.
Let me state what I’ve understood about these principles:

Truth/Dharma/Satya/Integrity: Various names that I know on this, but at the end I think all of these are conveying the same.
If I remember correctly I was most probably something around 14 years and my father told me one thing. He said that everyone looks at life from one’s “base”. And this “base” actually is creating the “sense of life” for every individual.
In those days playing marbles was the best thing in my life. It started from morning 7:30 till I was getting ready for the school. Then I’ll go to school and there also I’ll think about playing marbles. Whom should I play with so that I can win? Once I’m back from the school, I’ll eat something and rush out of our home to find out who’s available in the neighborhood for playing with me. In the evening I’ll come back, put back all the marbles and count what’s the position today. So it was my day and winning marbles was a measure of success.
Then time changed and so is everything, “base” also. Now playing marbles don’t call me. It’s no more a measure of success. At that time the “truth” of life was “winning marble and be happy”. No one could have made be believe that it’s not the source of happiness. And the fact is it was the base from which I was looking at the life and enjoying it. But one thing is sure that if I had not been allowed to play marble at the period of life I would have shattered in life. Now I choose not to play it anymore.
I’m writing all these is to tell is that at different time of life and for different person life is different and that’s the truth for that person at that moment. It may change the next moment, but for that moment that is ultimate truth.
From that truth I take my actions in life to fulfill the goals in life. Once I declare that goal within that realm of truth, I should ensure that the goal is met. The declaration that I only made, I am going to honor that. If I can’t honor what I’ve told then no one is going to honor that and then the success that I’m looking for is never going to happen. If I’m not going to make it happen then who else !
So what matters is that I honor what I say. That’s it.

Networking: Everything that I want to accomplish for achieving the goal for my success is not possible only by me. I require people around me whom I can ask for my support. So any highly successful person is having an extraordinary networking with people. And another aspect is that those people support the successful person is because they can trust on this person. So underlying aspect on networking is relationship where both the parties trust and respect each other.So the relatedness and oneness lies at the heart.

Environment: One very important aspect is the environment is supporting me for reaching my goal. It can be my family members, colleagues, neighbors anyone. It is so critical because the earlier aspect of networking can be fulfilled if the people around me are inspired by the goal that I’m supporting for myself and they can also see their goals getting fulfilled by that.

Causing it: Check my other blog that I’m going to write on this.

What's next

“What matters the most is the money that I take at the end of the month.” This is what I used to think even a few days back.
I’ve changed four jobs in last ten years and every time with a fatter pay cheque. And every time I was thinking this is what I was looking for. I’ll be greatly satisfied and happy in life. And this new job profile is what I was looking for. The last job was good, but this looks to be a better one. Both in terms of money and job responsibility.
Alas! Every time it comes out to be a recursive problem. Initially few days in the job and I’ll think the last organization was so good; they’re having those benefits and that employee friendly policy. Once this period is gone and I’m settled in the job, I start liking the new office and new colleagues and my job profile I’m start settling. Now few months gone and the mind start talking. You’re not getting the best package, you’re deprived. How? I don’t know. Talk to my colleagues and friends. Now it’s becoming more and clearer I’m missing some thing in life. So is this the dream job! Talk more and more to friends. More and more confusion. More and more mind is getting disturbed.
Then ask friends do you know any better opportunity in the market that is available. Yes, it’s there. You need the contact info of the consultants? Take these.
Then I start making calls to them, write mails to them. Some of them are friendly, some not that friendly. Friendly ones will tell, “Yes some options are there. Right now I can’t give the details. Please send your latest resume and I’ll take care of the rest.” Not that friendly one will tell “Please let’s have a look in your profile, and we’ll come back to you.”
If I’m lucky I’ll start getting calls. May be some interviews also, here and there. Something happens, eventually I’m not selected. Now I start jumping more and more. What’s happening? Why are they not selecting me? Is something wrong with me? I hope not. But I can’t sleep properly in the night and get annoyed with everyone in life. Guess who is the worst effected? Who else! Wife and kid. So they’ll also start behaving the same way. The ball actually bounced back. Then I’ll push that harder towards them and it’ll come at the same speed. Ultimately these will start looking like ace services from Sampras.
As this drama goes on and on, I become like mad. In the office also I start misbehaving with all. They also start avoiding me. I’ll tell “Who cares. I’m not worried about relations. If they don’t know how to behave, I’m least concerned.”

So this drama is going on and on.

Then what? Where am I going to stop !

Children

When I see around my life I can see people around having nice life and happy about their life. Any time ask them how are you doing - and instantenious reply is "fine" "excellent".
Few days back even I was in that zone. Everything is fine in life. What's the issue. Yes, it's true something here and there is not working. And that's fine. That's life - and it is like that. I know some few aspects I'm not very comfortable, but still I can drag on. And what can I do about that. Others are actually hindering in me not having the perfect wonderful life.
And I can not do anything with about that. How can I do anything if the people around me is not listening to my ideas. I can't do anything about that.

When I saw at my son, the thought I came through is that if they're not concerned about what's happening around them , who's saying what, if they are totally indifferent about everything - howcome I've become so significant about everything happening outside.
Yes, I am too significant about life. All that I think, is a thought. I don't even know how they got generated in me. And I'm holding these thoughts as truth.

As an science student, I always look for proof of everything. And alas , I never bothered to look for the proofs about my thoughts and beliefs.